It's been said that the quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our relationships.
Do we give all our relationships the attention they deserve?
One of my best friends from high school died unexpectedly earlier this month.
The last time I saw him was 2001. Our next conversation - and our last - was in 2015. He called me after learning that I had lung cancer.
At his memorial service, there was a montage of photos depicting his life, and through the other people in each of those pictures, his relationships. There were a few photos in which he and I were smiling, laughing and up to God-knows-what. We had a lot of fun. We spent a lot of time together. We attended each others' weddings. Then geography and the changes brought on by adulthood crowded out our friendship.
My lack of initiative to pick up the phone or plan an extra stop-off on a family vacation made the geography greater than it was. The more I think about it, the root cause of many fading friendships is the same as the root cause of most lost opportunities in life. It's procrastination.
"Today is too busy. I'll call tomorrow."
"It'll be a hassle to squeeze a half-day side trip into next week's business trip through New York; I'll see him next time I'm in the area, instead."
The trip to attend his memorial services caused me to realize how easy it would have been, to see him sooner.